That was my question as I rolled out of bed this morning. Ugh, why is life so hard? Why, why, why? The funny thing is that I have always known the answer to these questions, I've just never experienced the question.
So, here we are. Crawling out of bed every morning to start the day. I know some of my friends are going to get upset with me for this next confession, but I will explain myself. Nearly every morning I get up with my husband to make his breakfast, prepare his lunch and send him off with a kiss and a hug. Real "susie home maker", right? Oh, I can feel the heat of anger. Why do I do this? Three reasons are obvious.
1. My mother, bless her!!! @#$%^&! Don't worry, she is truly blessed and she would say the same thing about her own mother. Ugh, if my mother wasn't such a nice person, I wouldn't have to be. I am doing what I have seen my mother do for the past 30 years. With out fail she has served my father by rising in the morning with him and being home in the evening to receive him.
2. My husbands own words. "You have no idea how much it means to me that you get up every morning." "My day goes so much better when I've seen you first thing." As we as wives have the need to be loved, our husbands have the need to be respected. Remember, God never said anything about the husbands earning our respect, just as God told our husbands to love us even when we are unlovable. The point is obedience.
I have seen so many blessings God provided when I obeyed HIS instruction book (the Bible) for HIS Creation (us).
And so, I drag out of bed, telling myself, "I don't have to wake up, I only have to move my feet." With a sleepy smile I pour his coffee and pack his lunch. He has asked me to read the Proverbs to him/us as he eats. Wow, a devotional! I didn't know where to fit time with God into the busy schedule HE has given me. But, here it is in loving my husband. And, it is pretty funny when I mumble the text wrong saying, "blessed are the wrong doers." I get a raised brow from my husband and he asks me, with a wry smile, to read it again. Oops! :)
No, I haven't always or will always honour my husband this way or with the right attitude. It's really hard when I am mad at him. When the babies were little, he would tell me to go back to bed. PRAISE GOD!!! But the time of new babies made us cherish the morning time with each other all the more. I have found that we both miss each other when we don't get that time in the morning.
OK. How long is this post....blah, blah, blah.
In obedience to your Creator (who knows best), find a way in which you can convey honor to your husband and do it. Don't even talk it over with any one to get approval or "no, you don't have to do that." Just trust God to lay some thing on your heart to do for your husband and do it. WARNING: Expect it to be some thing you really don't want to do. AND it has to be done with joy. Remember the point is joyful obedience.
3. In the name of Jesus, our Redeemer and friend, Love HIM by following HIS commands. John 14:15
Anyad Si Eman Ym
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Gniod saw I tahw tuo erugif ot ouy ekat it did gnol woh? Repap no etirw to
si ti naht yaw siht epyt ot redrah neve sti. Edoc ni sgniht etirw ot yaw nuf
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Hi,
Rachael, glad to hear that you wake up every morning for your husband.
My mom waked up every morning at 2am with my dad when he was in business and then she would start her day, praying to her God then she would start the charcoal to get the fire up so she can boil water for the family, then she would cycled to the farmer market to get produce, we did not have refrigerator growing up. Then she would come back with her 2 big baskets of produces (1 in her front bicycle, the other at the back).
She would then started cooking for a family of 13. She washed laundry with her hand, dry the clothes on the cloth lines (no washing machine or dryer), clean the floor bending down (no mop), boiled enough water for the day (we do not have hot water in our faucet, we only have cold water running and it is not the kind of water you want to drink before boiling).
And she had to take care of her domestic animals, reared her own chickens and ducks at our back yard.
My mom is a model wife even though she is not a Christian woman. She not only take care of her husband, her kids but her parents, her mother in law (she sometimes stayed with us) and her younger brother (she stayed with us till he got married) and her youngest sister in law and brother in law (they stayed with us until they got married). I love my mom, I did not know how she did all the works that she had to do but she is one of the kind.
She lied her head to sleep after a long day work (no nap for her, she ironed our clothes in the afternoon, we do not have AC at our home, and it is a tropical island, every hot and the iron is charcoal iron) and she cleaned the living room and kitchen floor everyday.
I do not know how she did it but she worked very hard. She always tell us she did not want us to live the kind of life she had. She said because of the Japanese war, she lost her biological parents at war and was sent to live with her distant relatives and was denied of any formal education. She wanted so much for us (esp. the girls) to have good education so we can work in the office and hire maids to do all the houseworks that a house work has to do.
And all of us (3) did have very good education and she is pleased.
Now that she is getting old, my sister hired a 'live-in' maid for her. The maid now do every kind of house chore for her. And my brother hired a part time driver for her if she wanted to go shopping or go to the clinic to see the doctor after my dad pass away.
I did not do 1/2 of what my mother did when she was young :). But, I do prepare my husband breakfast and lunch the night before (in fact, I cook his breakfast, and lunch once a week, I froze them). I always try to be very creative for my son lunch box to school :) and I love to give him surprises or love notes at his lunch box. He loves it :).
Now that I am not in school, I cook 7x3 a week. It is a lot of works but my husband does not like to eat outside, he thinks it is very unhealthy.
I love cooking and I am ok with me but the things I don't particularly like is washing the dishes.
Whenever I feel a bit tire with the washing dishes, I just use my dish washer, though I really do not like to use it cos of the high electricity bill that we are getting nowsaday, sigh.
We do our family devotion in the evening. JJ now would not start his dinner without his dad say blessing to the food :). He would wait for his dad :).
Jamy
Jamy, I am so ashamed of myself. Why do I complain when I've got it so easy? I am also ashamed of my lack of relyence on God. Your mother prayed to her god every morning for help with the charcoal fire. I know my God has all things in control and HE will provide all my needs, but HE calls me to pray!!! Oh God, forgive me and teach me YOUR ways.
I am very encouraged as well. We don't realize what we can do until we are doing it. Your mother sounds like the Proverbs 31 woman. Oh, that she may know her Savior and Creator.
Dishes get me too. I've been having the kids help me there. I want them to know how to do all these things. My husband has always been a great help, but now that he is working harder and looking at going to school, all the things I have grown accustomed to his help with, I am having to do by myself. Don't you know I am pitching a fit?! God is always faithful. HE is providing a quiet and gentle spirit (IPet3) and the ability (by HIS grace and mercy) to serve with joy (IPet2:18-21)
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